Legal Issues Facing the BDSM Family/Custody

Custody in the BDSM Household

1024px-Redhead_in_Handcuffs-2Another issue the BDSM Practitioners face is legal issues involving custody. Many people in the BDSM lifestyle have children. One wouldn’t think that what happens behind closed doors between consenting adults would have any bearing on the custody of your children. Unfortunately for the BDSM community that is not the case. The courts few alternative lifestyles as pertaining to custody the same as it does for criminal litigation, with a closed mind.

Kissing Ass to Keep Your Kids…

The Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund recommends that you kiss everyone’s ass to stay out of the courts eyes.

There are several cases on their website that they were successful in.

http://www.sfldef.org/recent-cases.php

They recommend that you stay on good terms with ex’s and promote good relationships with grandparents. You should get involved with parent clubs, play dates, and local churches or synagogues. The defense fund also believes one should do what is needed to stay out of the courts. Do not ask for or apply for increases child support because this could lead to a custody litigation.

In addition they do not recommend that you have a webpage or talk about yo1024px-US_Supreme_Courtur lifestyle. Do not post on social media or join any groups that could be found out. Oops, to late hope no one comes after me for my kids. Litigation would be the least of their worries.

Other things recommended are things like keeping vaccinations up to date and record keeping. Most parents do these things anyway but they advise that people living an alternative lifestyle be more diligent. Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund does offer legal help to families that are in need and do not advise that you use just any council.

In My Eyes….

I thought we lived in the land of the free and the home of the brave. It’s not that I disagree with the advise of the foundation, I just have a hard time with giving a fuck what people think.When it comes to my children I would do ANYTHING. The consequences are that we are teaching our 1024px-Aerial_photograph_60D_2013_09_29_9601children to comply. Just to go along with it because it’s easier than fighting for what you believe in.

Lack of Knowledge on the Whole

Because BDSM practitioners are generally reserved people they do not talk about their lifestyle openly. This in turn leads to the public not really understanding the whole BDSM community. They only see the parts that are publicized. The only thing about that is that the only part that is publicized is the roughest sex parts. The deep sharing of emotions never experienced by the vanilla couple is not shared. One can never truly understand completely unless they experience it. The emotions experienced in a “scene” can be profound and life changing. But you will never hear that on the news or see it on a BDSM porn. Which is unfortunately the only exposure that most people will ever have to the BDSM lifestyle.  .

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